Are you looking for a marriage partner so he provides you home and she the cooking?
Are you looking to settle down because you are aging out?
Are you in a hurry to tie the knots because you have to leave for foreign country where you work?
Are you thinking to settle down because your parents are pressuring you?
Are you choosing the partner because both of yours horoscope match?
Are you choosing to marry because he/she meets your general criteria?
Are you afraid that if you don’t make decision now, you will lose out in life? And won’t be able to find anyone and leave a lonely life?
Are you in a dilemma because you have many persons to choose from an online matrimonial website? And you don’t know how to pin him/her down?
Are you choosing to marry that person because you know him and you feel secure with him?
You like that person but your gut says otherwise?
Your mind and heart split when you have to decide to marry that person?
Do you feel hopeless, helpless or under confident when it comes to selecting a marriage partner?
Or is it your second or third marriage?
Marriage is a complex affair. It starts simple but as time goes and more variables are added, it becomes more complex.
Overall, getting married is not that difficult but finding a right partner that matches you, your values, your personality, your future aspirations and goals, your outlook and interests is not easy.
Generally, people look at the macro criteria: Height, weight, skin color and shade, education, career, caste, language, common interests.
Your friends, family help you in this selection. It’s obvious. You can see it, you can verify it. And if you still want to be more assured, you seek astrologers to match the stars. If you get nods on these points, you are given a green signal. Everyone gets excited and feel assured especially with priest, astrologer and numerologist agreeing with it since you feel they know some future about you and predict happiness.
But who is going to look at that person beyond macro level and at the micro level other than you? : Wake up. And listen up: No One.
You are on your own. No one is going to live your life with that person for you. Only you have to. And that for 24/7, year in year out.
You have to be serious about this. Otherwise, you will be playing a big joke on yourself. Your happiness and unhappiness depends on that partner whether you like it or not.
You have to look deeper into at micro level. You got to use your microscope which is much better and predictable that the astrologer’s horoscope.
What do I need to see under the microscope? The two word answer is: INNER CORE.
What does the inner core include? It includes personality traits(happy, unhappy, serious, grouchy ,complaining, lying, domineering, controlling, humorous, anxious, exciting, mature, immature, childish), habits ( drinking, smoking, disorganized, dirty, clean freak), character(clean, straight, cunning, dubious, religious, spiritual, intellectual, emotional, responsible, irresponsible), emotionality( anger and fear being the most dominant), values, how he or she sees himself and others, what is their view of life, family, and society, how is work style, independency or dependency, how he/she handles stress, his/hers decision styles and methods, his/her interventions style, his/her dreams-both fake and real, congruity of his words and actions, his/her religious views (sooner or later that can create conflict), family dynamics, impact of family problems on his/her personality, mindsets( there are 7 ) and mind games and so on.
By the way, if you don’t consider these factors now before you consider marring him or her, don’t think they will disappear. Core never disappears. So don’t play mind game with yourself. If you do, you will be inviting trouble in future.
If you want to be self-assured and remain in comfortable control at the wheel of marriage and wish to spend life with that person day in day out with happiness and joy, then this knowledge is absolutely essential.
Macro factors are general. It does not give you knowledge nor assurance. Only understanding micro factors does.
How do you get that knowledge?
Two ways: One: read Dr. Pandya’s book on How to choose a right partner and avoid the wrong one. It’s coming very soon.
Secondly, get personal coaching from Dr. Pandya. You may only need a few sessions to give you clarity and inner power to make a right decision.
Make sure whoever you choose, you choose the right one. Because your future depends on it. Your children’s future depends on it. Your family happiness depends on it.
You just don’t need a partner, you need a right partner that would bring both joy, happiness, success and peace while accepting you wholly with your inner core. A humdard. He understands you, he trusts you and he enjoys your company for this life together. In essence, you need a
MERE HUMSAFAR! My sojourner!
And that’s very possible.